Hi, I’m Your Favorite Sexologist (Octavia E Vance) and for the past 11 years I’ve been helping high achieving women of faith who are sexually frustrated, embrace their sexuality while living for God.
And yes, we ended up having some beautifully and wonderfully made kids…a lota kids at that… 😉
But it wasn’t until after having our 3rd child that I got my sexual liberation. Here I was…an intelligent woman, a lover of God, a helpful wife, an amazing Mom with some amazing kids, YET my sexual liberation didn’t come until AFTER having children. NOT before I was married. Not after I was married. But AFTER I had multiple children. Why was that? Because I too, just like many of you, believed the erroneous teachings I’d heard while single that kept me sexually frustrated even years into marriage and after having kids. And that showed me that many times…
Sexually Frustrated Single Women often turn into Sexually Frustrated Married Women.
How do I know this? Not only because I was one but also because that’s where I started in my beginning stages of working towards being a Sex Coach 8 years ago. So many wives were reaching out to me about their sexual frustration that I first started 1 on 1 counsel sessions with sexually frustrated ladies both married & single. Then I started a small group for Nigerian wives to help in sexually liberating them. So that led to me into personal coaching for wives. I then created a sex workshop for wives and helped them to have better sex in their marriages in 2016. But the emails from sexually frustrated single women kept coming. So I began answering each of their emails each day and I noticed many of them with the same sexual issues with the same root…religious sexual repression. Something I also noticed in sexually frustrated wives.
Embracing your sexuality however, does. And yet that’s the thing. Who’s teaching intelligent Women of Faith how to embrace their sexuality while single? Who’s showing single women they can embrace their sexuality and still be a Woman of The Most High God? Who’s telling single women that they do not have to be sexually frustrated thinking that marriage will automatically end their sexual frustration only to find out later that it doesn’t. Or better yet, who’s helping single women understand what embracing their sexuality even is?
Single Ladies are tired of being told to “wait and pray” when it comes to all things sexual, yet no one is telling them how to deal with their sexual frustration while living for God. And what’s worse, hardly anyone in their churches even acknowledge that single ladies get sexually frustrated in the first place.
Her struggles with sexuality are often times overlooked, undervalued and underemphasized. Most times she’s told to cast down her “sexually impure” thoughts and bring them under the subjection to Christ. And how does one do that? By praying? Fasting? And reading the bible right? But why after continually doing this her sexual frustration often intensifies?
It’s because too many are downplaying that women feeling sexual is NATURAL and to be EMBRACED not shunned.
In the beginning I did these sessions one on one. Then I created a small group for wives who were sexually frustrated. I then took the main frustrations of those wives and constructed my first workshop for wives on how to have better sex even tho many were in Christian marriages where sex and sexual issues were still taboo. Then by many requests, I formed a membership site for single ladies who wanted to learn more about sex and their sexuality while single.
You’ve been frustrated too long. Now it’s time to get your liberation Boo.
This program was created just for you.
“You’ve been to church after church, altar call after altar call, facebook group after facebook group trying to get help with your frustration and yet you are STILL sexually frustrated. Why? Because mainly your frustration isn’t being addressed up closely, intimately and personally. And this issue IS personal. This is you, your well being and yes, your very life. And that’s part of the problem isn’t it? Too many down play sex(uality) especially for the saved single woman because “you’re not even supposed to be thinking about anything sexual until you’re married” right? So you’re often times put off by all of those places mentioned above when it comes to sex because they focus on giving you the generalized solution and not the the specialized solution that fits YOUR FRUSTRATION and not the masses.
They don’t know your background, your trials, your setbacks, your details etc, so how can they give you the up close and personal feedback you need in order to get to your liberation? And part of the reason they don’t know all this is because you haven’t told them what you’re really dealing with. And why is that? Because of constantly being in the atmosphere of the overly judging, the super religifying and the always condemning. It can be extremely hard to get in front of others and just ‘bear all’ without fear of unrighteous judgement or religious condemnation under the guise of rebuke and correction.
And that is one main reason I created this mentorship program…so that sexually frustrated women of God can get that up close, intimate and personal mentoring with someone who’s been there, who’s not afraid to share and who’s liberated enough to take you from “frustration 2 Liberation“!
“OEV MAKES SEX EASIER TO TALK ABOUT EVEN WHEN IT’S HARD”! The Sex 4 Ladies workshop was so much more than I expected. I enrolled in hopes of learning what is sexual sin & what is not. I learned that plus so much more. I learned what is sin, in general, and what is not. This workshop opened my eyes to things I’ve learned over the years by simply trusting others knowledge & follow their teachings. OEV taught us to search for the truth for ourselves. She provided guidance & resources for personal study of God’s Word to set us on a path to, not only sexual freedom, but freedom from the bondage that religion can place on people. I’ve been seeking & finding on my own, growing deeper & closer to the Most High. I will never be the same again.
Thank you OEV”.
“SHE HELPED ME LET GO OF THE SEXUALLY REPRESSIVE IDEAS I HAD SINCE A CHILD”. Though I was on my way to letting them go, her Sex 4 Ladies workshop confirmed that it was finally time to lay them to rest. I’ve never heard anyone as passionate as OEV when it comes to liberating sexually repressed and sexually frustrated women. She takes her time to answer every question and break down each teaching with the bible as her foundation. She’s truly a gem for this generation and then some.”
“THE BEST CLASS I’VE EVER TAKEN.”
I had so many questions and so many misconceptions when it came to sexuality and OEV answered them ALL and more. I’m so grateful for her teaching and her commitment to helping ladies go from repression to liberation. If you’re looking for a mentor who’s been there and done that and will break down the bible so that all can understand when it comes to relationships and sex, then there’s none better to lead you into liberation than her. Thank you OEV. I’m forever grateful!
This is what you really want, Sis. And you need someone who can help you get these results right? So..